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Sad news from Twisting the Hellmouth

posted by [personal profile] revdorothyl at 04:04pm on 20/05/2008
I just clicked on what I thought were new updates to several stories by one of my favorite fanfic authors on "Twisting the Hellmouth", and saw the notice from her friend Polgara that Krisztina (a.k.a. "so_very_sita" on MSN and [livejournal.com profile] krees_tee_nah on LJ at one time) had been killed in a hit and run accident last Friday.

I'm in shock, of course, and am selfishly mourning the in-depth, involving crossover stories she'll never finish, but I can only imagine how dreadful this must be for her friends and family. My prayers are with them.

In her memory, Polgara has collected all Krisztina's fics (most of which are not available to read elsewhere) here: http://www.angelfire.com/wv2/polgara/sita.html
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posted by [identity profile] texanfan.livejournal.com at 11:53am on 21/05/2008
I'm so sorry for your loss. And it is a loss. When we follow someone here on lj we get to feeling that we know them, and in a very real sense we do, but we have virtually no closure or ability to fully mourn when tragedy strikes. I haven't been able to bear to delete Nan Dibble from my friends list even though she's been gone more than a year.
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posted by [identity profile] revdorothyl.livejournal.com at 04:01pm on 21/05/2008
Thanks for letting me know it's not weird to feel more than usually disconnected and helpless when dealing with the death of a 'friend' I never met in person and may not've exchanged more than email notes with over the course of several years.

But reading someone's fic and reviewing it, discussing it with them -- somehow, that feels like an intimate connection, as though they've opened their souls to you, even if you don't know their RL name or anything else about them. And to have that link, however tenuous it may actually be, suddenly severed, with nowhere to gather to grieve . . . . It's upsetting.

Hmm, I wonder if next year's WriterCon would be interested in offering a memorial gathering for those mourning fan writers who've died in the past few years, as some sort of workshop or panel option? Or a panel on grieving within a largely online community?
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posted by [identity profile] texanfan.livejournal.com at 12:47pm on 22/05/2008
I wonder if we could do it as some sort of morning or afternoon ceremony? It would have to be seriously vague in it's spirituality, given the wide diversity of beliefs and lack thereof but I think it's worth suggesting.

Have you done the feedback survey yet? Please say you're going next year.
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posted by [identity profile] revdorothyl.livejournal.com at 05:30pm on 22/05/2008
Yes, I took the feedback survey already (before this whole 'how do you mourn for online friends and fan writers, when there's no-one to share a casserole with?' issue had occurred to me), and I'm certainly planning to attend next year, unless it's financially or physically impossible for me to get there (which is why I'm hoping for Minneapolis -- where I have fannish friends-of-friends and which is within reasonable driving distance of other cities where I have friends to visit -- rather than a summer visit to Tampa!).

I trust you'll be there, as well?
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posted by [identity profile] texanfan.livejournal.com at 04:09am on 23/05/2008
Absolutely! I've taken the survey already myself but there is a post where I can put the suggestion and I think I will.
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posted by [identity profile] revdorothyl.livejournal.com at 03:08pm on 23/05/2008
Excellent!
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